Anonymous asked: Should I be upset that my boyfriend watches porn about things that have nothing to do with me? Such as hentai and lesbians and girls who don't look like me?

now that is something totally based on you!

if you feel upset by it .. then by all means .. be upset by it. don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t be. let him know and tell him that shit doesn’t fly with you. if he’s not a grade a douche .. he’ll take what you have to say to heart.

but if it truly doesn’t bother you .. then GREAT! he’ll be happy i’m sure and you can keep on keepin’ on.

 one thing you certainly shouldn’t feel is threatened! people watch this kinda stuff .. but it doesn’t mean he’s not super hot for you~

  3:27 pm  |   February 19 2011   |  4 notes  

Anonymous asked: I'm pretty sure that I'm an asexual, and now that I'm beginning to feel more comfortable in my own skin*~*~ I'm getting more attention from others, you know, wanting some kind of relationship. This would be okay if I was interested, but I'm not, really. I think I'm just asking for advice on how to communicate that hey! I'm willing to give it a go, but not if you're interested in touching each other's bits (because I have to REALLY like you since it doesn't do anything for me lol selfish human existence~) Besides, my sister has this kind of motto that dating someone is basically like holding interviews to decide if you want to have sex with someone or not and I think I've been traumatized by that and now ANY let's go get coffee~ thing immediately makes me think OH NO SEX INTERVIEW. FFFFFUUUUU (but you know, in the silent in my head kind of way). So I guess any advice on how to detour that from happening or the first part would be nice.

i don’t want to diss your sister at all .. but i wouldn’t agree that dating is interviews to decide if you want to have sex with them or not.

sex can be pursued in any situation .. meeting someone for the first time, after several dates, after years of friendship .. it just completely depends on the individuals. dating isn’t a one way ticket into someone else’s pants and if the person you’re considering dating doesn’t know that .. then they ain’t worthy of you that is FOR SURE.

so to answer your question to the best of my ability .. go out on dates and have a good time. if said individual is puttin’ those sweet moves on you like they’re looking for a little below the belt action .. there are just clear gestures you can make. body language man. your responses to their touch or how far you go to really engage them in conversation should be cluing them in. don’t feel bad about saying no straight to them either. tell those punx to enjoy the unscented hand lotion in their nightstand drawer.

w o w. was this a suitable answer? I AM TRYING TO BE SERIOUS AND WITTY AND I WANT TO FIND THE CORRECT BALANCE. I WOULD LIKE YOUR FEEDBACK PLEASE.

  6:17 am  |   February 19 2011   |  2 notes  

Anonymous asked: what is your take on masturbation?

i think it’s totally necessary to learn about ~yourself~ and i personally think it’s important for everyone to get some .. alone time.

masturbation is often perceived as something wrong or dirty .. but it allows you to learn what you like and to become more ~in tune~ with your body. (WOW HOW CLICHE. BUT IT’S TOTALLY TRUE.)

finding out what you enjoy is important with yourself and with a partner. you might not always have a lover to raise your spirits .. but you’ll always have your right hand.

  5:49 am  |   February 19 2011   |  4 notes  

Anonymous asked: dr. erin,
i have some jarring questions about sex?
are you ready for this jelly?

i have been preparing for this jelly all my life.

HIT ME.

  5:26 am  |   February 19 2011   |  2 notes